Why I rather hangout with young followers of Christ over old

*This is about the circles I am in, whether at my school or on a day-to-day basis. I'm referring to how long they've been followers of Christ, "young" in the sense that they're rather new to the faith, this isn't an age thing*

Among the followers of Christ I interact with, my preference is to hang out with newer believers than older. Yes older followers of Christ have wisdom with years and experience, but from what I have found in the groups I interact with, the older ones speak of the valleys, but seem to gloss over them or forget them.
The valleys as in the darkened places we all tread every now and then, it is the lowpoints of our lives that are bleak and hopeless but far from Godless. God is present on the peaks as well as the valleys, but as I happen to be in the winter of my discontent, I need a brother or sister of Christ who can relate to the valleys because either they're entering one or on their way out. My good bro in Christ is someone who is in the valley with God and myself, life is dark, life is hard, and yet we struggle and toil and question many of the same things. It is far more rewarding for me to relate to this brother in Christ than someone who speaks to me of it but without actually being in the valley.

I rather walk this path with someone who is on the same part of it as me, if one is further along than I, that's fine, but don't talk about the part I'm on if you have forgotten what the terrain and surface is like.

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Chick Flicks don't do it for me

Pondered about in my mind from last night, but I'm writing it out today...

I am sitting here at my laptop drinking a pint of Guinness after recently finishing watching my favorite chick flick (wait, what?)

My favorite chick flick of all time...

Anne of Green Gables series

Yet the movie does me a disservice as it does for you girls who enjoy them. Sure they're funny, hysterical, makes you laugh and they make you cry, but they also create unrealistic expectations for you. It works both ways, both unrealistic expectations for guys but also for girls, and so I will say my 2 cents about both.

Guy Perspective:


Us guys cannot be the ideal guy in these movies, but in the same way we cannot get the ideal girl in chick flicks. The girl who might avoid us in the now, but given time and different changes we eventually get the girl we always wanted and it's hunky-dory and we live happily after... Not true! I would like to wait for a particular girl, but if it's not working out now I can't hang on to the moments that were awesome and hope they'll sustain me. I have to move on, as painful as it is, I can't drag my feet. It is Hollywood telling us that there is an ideal girl for every guy, and if we buy into this lie it will cost us in time and emotions.

I don't intend to be rude to the particular girl I am talking about, but you already know some of this stuff from the note I gave you last Friday. I'd like to stay, but I cannot, it hurts too much.

Girl Perspective:


For those of you who know the series, the guy who fancies Anne (even when she doesn't fancy him back) is a young guy named Gilbert. Gilbert constantly annoys Anne, but it is his way of flirting with her. Anne sees no flirting, but just childish immature behaviour. Yet all the while Gilbert waits for Anne, pines for her and before you know it the tables have turned and she's the one trying to get his attention.
Yes, Gilbert is the ideal guy for Anne and she's the ideal girl for him. But once again it is Hollywood saying A GUY SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. There are no real Gilbert's out there, sure you might be blessed to find a guy with a few of his qualities, but you won't find a carbon copy of this guy.

In conclusion, I am hesitant about chick flicks and the ideal guys and girls they churn out (well, it's not my only issue, but the only one I'm covering here); there will be never be the ideal guy or girl. I hope that all of us find someone we can relate to and share interests with and someone we can truly love for who they are -- all flaws included.

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My perspective on being Pro Life

I stir the pot, I create controversy, I make waves, I didn't get dressed up for nothing...

When it comes to being Pro Life (which I am), I think about what that means for me. Yes, I am supportive of the mother of the unborn child and the unborn child, but it doesn't stop there, for I am pro life for all. By this I mean that I am Pro Life for those who are on death row (life without parole is a much better option) and also for those who we deem America's enemies. The soldiers who do defend our freedoms and liberties, I support what them but not the war itself, there is a time and place for war...this, this isn't the time or the place.
I am also supportive of the ones who fight against us as well, they are fighting for what they deem as right themselves, they are human beings made in the image of God and they deserve lie as much as the next person.

When it comes to murderers and other prisoners who are condemned to die, I support their right to life as well; granted it might be life without parole behind bars and not in society as you and I know it, but it is life nonetheless. Who are we to play God and state who should live and shouldn't.

My peers (not all, but some) have a mindset that limits them to define being pro life as to only being the unborn child[ren] and the mom...that's all. It irks me a little bit when they they limit themselves to these set terms, a life is a life, whether you're unborn or you're in jail for killing someone else.

Now some people have given me extreme examples, recently someone mentioned those who were warlords during World War 2, the ones who mistreated and murdered Jews. I am partially Jewish and yet my response hasn't changed, we should have gave them life with parole in jail, give them the lesser evil instead of killing them. I'm sure I pissed off the person I was talking to about my stance on being pro life, she even mentioned to me that they "deserved it". My heart cried at this, they deserved it? I wondered in my head, are we then no more the monsters then they were? Are we no more guilty then they were?
We are all made in God's likeness, it is not for us to decide who lives and who does not.

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