*Boring as a result of the stereotype that represents them, to which some Christian girls act the part and/or their environment says they should be a certain way. To the Christian girls who read this, this is somewhat satirical and somewhat serious at the same time, I'm sure you know of ways to say that Christian Guys are boring under the same or similar context.
I plan on getting back into dating (building stronger relationships with a girl prior to dating) and sometimes I wonder if to avoid the stereotypical boring Christian girl, maybe I should be looking for her outside of church/related environments that couldcultivate a boring girl, but that's just me...read on, okay? 
Christian girls are boring to me because the ones that fit the stereotype are a bit too consumed in some areas that I don't find desirable, but what makes a Christian girl boring? Good question, well for me it goes as follows:
1) Someone who thinks her biological clock is ticking VERY quickly; as in, a good portion of her friends are young 20something wives and moms. It costs A LOT of money to support oneself, but to bring in another life and be dependent on it is another ordeal altogether, how many can say they're financially secure right after school? I mean, unless you married someone who's an oil baron who doesn't need a spouse to work, you and the guy you're married to will BOTH need to work to support each other, bringing kids into the world while not being somewhat financially secure is bad idea in my opinion. You will have plenty of time to make some kids, don't worry, until then get on some form of birth control.
2) Someone who reads Ephesians 5:22 out of context; yes, the verse that says wives submit unto your husbands, but to just take that verse and not look at verses around it as well as the context is no bueno in my book. Yes, wives are to submit to their husbands, but the following verse shares how husbands need to submit to their wivestoo. I do know the girls who read only v. 22, and sadly I also know the guys who read v. 22 as well and expect their girlfriends or wives to submit until them...the shame of it all is that girls buy this verse.
3) Someone who views things go in two different boxes; there's the God box and then there's the box for everything else. The breakdown of separating things in terms ofsecular and sacred gets to me, everything is spiritual, all truth is God's truth. No need to complicate things and make laws that aren't of God.
4) A girl who doesn't have views she claims as her own; well my pastor said... well my mother said... This really isn't cool to me, for what truly matters to you in your life, please express it in terms of well I believe... It makes me happy when anyone states opinions that they believe in terms of I, because even if I don't agree with you, the thoughts you just let me in on, they're your own, major propage to ya!
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In a nutshell that's why I find Christian girls boring, yet I recognize these traits can be found in Christian males as well, so I guess the fight is on equal terms.
What do you think? Are Christian Girls (and Guys) boring or not?
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Brother, if I may comment, I would like to say that in general you find women who are stereotyping themselves as “Christians” to be boring and, of course, so do I. Authentic life in either sex is what attracts, life lived “as you are” and if Christ is your life, well, what can I say? You will not probably fit the cookie cutter pattern of the modern Christian. Instead, you will be like someone out of a science fiction or fantasy novel, or from the pages of the Bible itself. Why? Because the inauthentic has become the majority environment of the world in these final days, and only fiction (written to give some relief, though it is not permanent or lasting) or the Word of God (the eternal, the always fresh, revelation of the mind of God our maker and deliverer), challenges this environment, and presents us with an alternative.
I find that most of your criticisms are not coming from a scriptural mindset, but from one which is really quite secular. This surprises me, as you have put forth yourself as one who is a follower of Jesus, who is the Word of God in human form, and who said, “If you make My Word your home, you will be My disciples.” That home comes fully furnished with everything we need, and He has arranged everything so wisely for us. People say they are moving in to live there, but usually they only visit and try to rearrange His furniture to suit themselves. Brother, do not be that kind of habitant!
You say that you don’t like this in Christian women, that they think their biological clock is ticking very quickly, that they must get married and make babies as soon as possible, no matter what. You challenge this, saying, “It costs A LOT of money to support oneself, but to bring in another life and be dependent on it is another ordeal altogether, how many can say they're financially secure right after school? I mean, unless you married someone who's an oil baron who doesn't need a spouse to work, you and the guy you're married to will BOTH need to work to support each other, bringing kids into the world while not being somewhat financially secure is bad idea in my opinion. You will have plenty of time to make some kids, don't worry, until then get on some form of birth control.” I challenge you to take up the biblical faith, starting with not seating yourself on the throne of your life and tailoring the commandments to suit what you think is reasonable.
The truth is that no one is ever ready to have children once they are married, no one, not even the rich. It is a scary proposition, not however for the reasons you state, financial inadequacy and such, but rather, because God has given us a commandment, “be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth”, in which He partners with us in the most intimate way imaginable, making us in our act of procreation co-creators with Him of other human lives and fashioners of the history of the world. As followers of Jesus—I am not saying, as “Christians”, because anyone can say they are that—as followers of the Living One, the Holy One of Israel, the only God, who risked all to enter the womb of an unwedded bride and become Man, as followers of That Man, we run the way of the commandments, because we have been set free.
Set free from what? Set free from fear, ultimately the fear of death, but intimately the fear of submitting our day to day lives to Him, to letting Him, the faithful and the true, hold us in the palm of His hand. The first commandment is the easiest, but only if we obey it without hedging it in with restrictions. Yes, your young body and the young body of your wife, are prepared for the begetting, bearing and raising of children. We let ourselves be guided by biblically informed reason, according to the conditions at hand. If you are caught in the midst of a raging battle, your land is being pillaged and raped and denuded of its inhabitants, this is not the time to procreate, but to pray for deliverance. We aren’t there yet, brother. But if you make ease the measuring stick of how and when to fulfill the commandments, you will lose all.
Everything that our good and loving God commands in holy and divine scripture is true. It doesn’t need adjustment from us. The Holy Spirit in fact interprets for us in every situation how to apply it, if we will listen to Him and not take refuge in our own calculated reason. He can enlighten reason in us, but only when we have yielded all to Him.
You seem to have a problem with God’s order of Man and Woman that is provided for us in His Word. Out of context, you say, people have stressed the “wives submit to your husbands” and suppressed the “husbands submit to your wives.” There is no such verse, other than to “submit yourselves to one another, in love.” The word submission can mean many things, and you have a lot to learn, not from modern philosophy or your own thoughts fashioned by the world system, but from living the commandments that have been revealed in the Word, instead of just talking about them. At one time you identified yourself as Greek Orthodox, and I don’t know if you still do. Orthodoxy does not bend to the world system or its philosophy, and those who are Orthodox live already in another world, in another house, and that house is the one that Jesus speaks of when He says, “If you make My Word your home…”
People are afraid—there’s that word “fear” again!—to submit themselves body, mind and soul to what the Word of God decrees for mankind, that is, the divine economy, the plan of salvation. They always want to tailor it to what they think is their current condition or status. That’s why we see hundreds of different editions of the bible for every kind of person. But this, brother, is blatant blasphemy, yet the world-conditioned Christians see it as God’s gentle and accepting way with them. C. S. Lewis was right when he described this kind of man-made “God” as a Grandfather in heaven, who is happy when he knows that everyone has had a great day and enjoyed themselves.
You say that you are not one of those who box reality up into secular and spiritual categories. You say that “everything is spiritual, all truth is God’s truth.” Easy to say this, brother, but difficult to live it, don’t you think? You say, “No need to complicate things and make laws that aren't of God.” Again, easy to say, but then whose laws are of God, and whose aren’t, and who is to judge?
There is a divinely established order of Man and Woman, and it is what the Word of God declares. Only those who intend to live according to that order can speak about it, can describe what it is like, but most importantly, even without speaking of it, we can see the effect that following the order that God has established has on their lives. Their marriages and their families become ikons of life in the Holy Triad, ikons even of Paradise, as the Orthodox wedding service proclaims.
Not only in the married life, but in everything—for He has ordered even our society—we live according to the mind of Christ, which is One mind, and which He gives to us, when we come to Him without defense or excuse, and allow Him to reveal to us what and who He made us to be, and gives us that white stone on which our new names are written, which only the one who receives it can read.
It’s time to grow up for real, and leave behind the world’s false assurances and decrees.
The decree of Yahweh Sabaoth awaits us all, who have ears to hear.
I would say the things I find boring with Christian women are the same things I find boring with Christians in general. One is their idiotic self imposed moral system ( the morals they impose on themselves and others that they think are scriptural yet cannot be found in scripture). For instance, I called one of my female christian friends hot the other day. One of our other Christian friends interjected and said " while I agree she is hot, it's not ok to call her that." ( and Christians wonder why the rest of the world questions their intellect). Another is their lack of ownership of their beliefs and morality. Whenever they discuss morality, it's always "well this verse says this", or" my pastor said that". It sounds so regurgitated at times, and between that and the cliche repetitiveness of the music they play on KLove you wonder if christians ever have an original idea or if they need to be spoon fed everything. Also, they feel the need to impose their beliefs on everyone else, and if you disagree with them, then you are wrong. Their faith is in their faith more than it is grounded in scripture or in reality ( this does not go for all Christians, but a lot of my exposure to Christianity is through the pentecostal charismatic movement so I've seen the dumbest of the dumb). Christian singles who have never been in a relationship and are damn near 30 are the worst. They act as if God is just going to magically bring someone into their lives for them to marry, and showing any attraction whatsoever to the opposite sex is wrong and not how things are supposed to be done. Then they cant figure out why, after years of praying for God to work his magic in this area, they are still single. Maybe the "miracle" that needs to happen is a change of perspective for them. Then last but not least, when Christians become stripped of their ability to use their beliefs to be persecuting or condescending toward others who think differently( i.e. gays and women), they claim they are being persecuted. For instance to them, gay rights = an attack on the "christian" institution of marriage ( even though other religions have believed in the same marital institution for just as long), and equal treatment for women= an attack on Christian men. These aforementioned things do not apply to all Christians by any means, however, they do apply much more often than they should.
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